First off a little back story. My husband is a 27 year old Iraq veteran. He was injured while on patrol, an has a severe spinal injury, a leg injury, a traumatic brain injury, and severe post traumatic stress disorder. (Who wouldn’t after being blown up?) He can walk for short periods of time, with the use of a cane. (30-45 minutes at most) The rest of the time he is wheelchair bound.
I’m 21. I married my husband when I was 18, and he had already been injured when I married him. Everyone tried to talk me out of marrying a broken man, because I wouldn’t have a normal life. I married him anyway. We have been married almost 3 years, and I am told all the time how strong I am, and how hard it must be for me… but they’re wrong.
Everyone thinks the hardest part has to be that he can’t walk, or that I have to bathe him, or that I have to help him on and off the toilet, because he can’t do it himself anymore. That isn’t it at all. The hardest part of being married to someone who is broken, is dealing with everyone else.
Just the other day, my husband was yelled at for parking in a handicapped parking spot. They see the plates or placard and assume since we’re both young, we stole them from our grandparents. I’ve really been accused of this. People give him dirty looks for using those in store scooters, or his wheelchair. Sadly, these aren’t one-offs – they happen to him all the time. They all see him like a cancer on society. That is the worst part of being married to a veteran.
The hardest part for me is seeing my husband break down in tears after being yelled at by a random person at the post office, and hearing him say “This isn’t what I fought for. This isn’t what I fought for at all.”
So I always tell him “Loving a military man was not hard. The distance was hard, the sacrifices were hand. But loving you… that’s the easiest thing I’ve ever done.”
The veterans of our military services have put their lives on the line to protect the freedoms that we enjoy. They have dedicated their lives to their country and deserve to be recognized for their commitment. We owe our disabled veterans more than speeches, parades and monuments.
Share this with your friends and family on Facebook if you agree!